The main point to extract is that I've had many special ones in my past. I've never had a date in my life. Don't get the idea that I'm a player because I'm not a player. Players actually try to commit to others, but dump them (or cheat) in favor of some other lover. I'm not like that.
I think if you feel like wanting to start a relationship with someone special, these are things you have to consider. Also think of what you look for in someone. The person who is closest to who you envision as your partner is the one you go for. If no one is close to what you look for (or if they're taken), then you go looking for someone new you're happiest with.
While I think there is that person for all of us that makes us happy, there's never that specific one that fulfills all aspects of what we look for in a lover. Everyone is as perfect as we deem perfect. You're never going to meet that truly special person. And when I say that, I'm talking about a casual person looking for someone who is completely perfect- unconditionally loves you, supports you, cares about you, can't live without you... things like that. Things happen over time to test relationships,
The mindset I hate most is when people just give up on trying to meet someone special and loving. It's that feeling of "nobody loves me or cares about me." Let me tell you something. There have been friends in my life whom have mattered to me very much. There have been times in my life where I felt like only certain friends of mine can help me feel better when I'm having my worst days. While I've never had a true girlfriend, at least I know there are those out there whom I'd most love to be with for when I'm really wanting to think about whom I most want to be with and love for a long time.
Some people, Heaven forbid, just don't have any luck having or keeping lovers. It just doesn't work out for some people. I think the best thing is just to keep on going and hopefully get to find someone who really matters to you and loves you as much as you love her/him.
Finding "that one" can be a tedious process, but it's very possible to meet that special someone whom you feel connected and loved being with. Sometimes, that dream person can come at a time when you least expect it. That person can come from someone who just somehow magically connects with you. It doesn't matter if you're heterosexual, homosexual, or bisexual... that special someone is out there for you possibly willing to meet you at long last. So keep trying to find that special someone!